2. “You’re just like all the other horrible people I’ve been with!” Narcissists enjoy making you feel bad and guilty for even thinking about leaving them. They push you to feel you are making a wrong decision and then crib to you for being so horrible to them. They basically act this way so that you are compelled to prove them wrong by sticking with them or become an even lovelier partner than before.
3. “I can’t imagine my life without you.” Now, this statement is very challenging to decode. It can be spoken by someone in a very genuine sense. So how to understand that it is coming from a narcissist? Well, narcissists are not mentally stable beings. They don’t feel any love towards you and are just using you for their benefit. They will leave you as soon as they are done with you and are keeping you around because it is easier than finding another victim.
4. “Everyone warned me about you, but I didn’t believe them.” In order to completely capture your mind and soul, narcissists will portray themselves as the only person who genuinely cares about you, whom you can trust with all your heart, and make you skeptical about the people surrounding you. They will plant the seed of doubt and insecurity within you and make you feel vulnerable, seeking their comfort. This statement is the most effective in this case.
5. “I don’t get why you’re the only one who doesn’t understand me!” Another tactic of gaslighting, a narcissist uses this one to enforce control over your thoughts and actions so that you work according to their wishes. If you make a choice to speak for yourself and stand up against them, they will depict you like you are out of your mind.
6. “You’re so sensitive! Stop being so sensitive!” This is one of the lies that a narcissist says to try and manipulate your reactions to their actions. This is just another form of gaslighting to modify your responses towards their incessant mood swings and manipulations. Since narcissists do not appreciate a negative response to their commands, even if they are getting on your nerves, they make you feel like you are overreacting even if it is a justified reaction. It will force you to stay as you begin doubting yourself.
7. *Unnecessary Lying*. Narcissists are pathological liars who will spew rampant lies without any reason. It has become second nature to them and thus they are unable to speak the truth. Once they wrap your entire life in lies, it’s very hard to get back to reality without it.
8. “I’m amazing!” Narcissists will go out of their way to express to the world and ingrain into everyone that they are the best people to ever walk on this planet. They always talk about themselves, showing off their connections, authority, and power, and fake humility to balance it out. They will portray themselves as the best possible partners, forcing you to doubt your own thoughts about leaving them.
. “No, I’m better than them.” A very effective way in which narcissists capture their victims is to make them believe that they will never find someone better than them. They will speak ill about everyone around you, forcing you to feel they are the best catch.
10. “No honey, I promise, that’s the last time!” This is one of the legendary lies a narcissist says to keep you from leaving them. At times when narcissists realize that they have screwed up really bad, they hand out fake promises to convince you to stay with them. They’ll promise to never do it again, only to break them eventually, many more times. Once you accept their apology they’ll feel you’ll forgive them every time.
. “She was so abusive, my ex! A horrible person!” The narcissist always projects himself as the ultimate victim and tells you everything about their trauma and pathetic past so that you treat them with the utmost care and love. Their “traumatic” life provides them a free way to be horrible human beings all the time and thus compelling you to treat them kindly no matter what so that you don’t come off as insensitive.
12. “Don’t worry about this, it’s fine!” Narcissists feel that rules don’t apply to them and thus they expect you to clean up after them in case things go wrong. They will force you to think that it’s your duty anyway and make you do it.
13. “Not my fault. That’s on you.” A narcissist will never take responsibility for his actions and you’ll always be the one at fault for any of his mistakes. So even if he abuses or treats you badly, he’ll justify it as your mistake and not his. They’ll manipulate you into thinking that you are at fault and make you apologize.
14. “I’m doing this because I care for you.” This is a very common lie that a narcissist or even an abuser says to give a false sense of comfort to their victims. They pretend to care about your well being when in reality they simply don’t. So when you hear this, understand that it’s a trick to impress you and to capture your attention.
15. “If you leave, I’ll die.” They emotionally blackmail you to stay with them because they know you can’t deal with that pain. He won’t die and even if he does, it’s not on you.
